Going to Preschool with a Smile

Every parent has, at some point, faced the challenge of a child not wanting to go to preschool. Morning tears and negotiations: why does this happen, and how can we help our little ones manage their emotions?

Why might your child not want to enter the classroom?
Even if you love your job, there are mornings when getting out from under a cozy blanket and heading out is the last thing you want to do :) The same applies to our children, but they experience this more emotionally. The ability to adapt quickly during transitions is a skill that develops over time.

Additionally, preschool is often the first time children experience extended separation from their parents. They find themselves in a new environment with unfamiliar people and routines. Even if they’ve previously attended daycare, preschool represents a more significant step toward independence. Morning separation anxiety can sometimes lead to tears, and this is completely normal.

How can you help your child?
A strong emotional connection with parents is crucial. Children pick up on their parents' feelings; if you’re anxious about their adaptation, they’ll mirror those emotions. The most important way to help your child when they don’t want to go to preschool is to stay calm and positive. When they see you drop them off with a smile every day, their own worries will gradually fade away.

You can also gently redirect their attention to the positive aspects of the day ahead. Remind them of the friends they’ll see at school, ask what they enjoy doing there, and highlight any fun activities they might engage in that day.

If your child is still feeling anxious, try establishing a clear routine for the day and set a specific moment for when you’ll return. For example, say, "You'll play with your friends, and I’ll pick you up after the outdoor walk." Having this anchor point can make it easier for them to say goodbye. The key is to stick to your word. You could also create a special goodbye ritual of your own.

Why Montessori Hub?
At Montessori Hub, we understand the importance of a gentle approach to the phase-in process. That's why we begin familiarizing children with the space and teachers well before their first day, helping to build a foundation of trust.

We also ease the phase-in by gradually increasing the time children spend in the group. They know they can always step out of the classroom to see their parents and return when they feel ready. Moms and dads are welcome to stay as long as needed to help their child feel safe.

Come to Montessori Hub and help your child take their first steps in socialization with joy and confidence!